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So you’re in ‘like’ with someone.
How do you know this? You get “butterflies” in your stomach, maybe you feel a spark/ chemistry, or you actually give a shit what they think about you and secretly look your best “effortlessly.” “….Oh this old thing? Yeah, I just threw it together.” Sometimes we can’t help the way we feel. That can be A. The greatest feeling ever or B. Suck. The reasons why it’s awesome; you finally found someone you mesh well with, that you generally like as a person and can see yourself with long term. Why it would suck; you unconsciously make yourself available for them even though you made no definite plans. Maybe you think about them all the time and wonder what they’re doing. Or you like them way more than they like you. Its a 50/50 chance it can go either way. Feelings are tricky.
As kids we called it a crush. That evil little boy that put gum in your hair during your math test may have liked you. The expression of love in spit balls and Indian burn moments. Lol At the time you thought it was torture. You avoided him on class trips, got your friends to give him dirt looks, and complained to your parents. All the while little Jimmy GlueEating Parsons liked you. If you ever watched Hey Arnold you know exactly what I’m talking about. “Hey football head!” was a term of endearment from Olga who tortured Arnold everyday. Then secretly kneeling in a dim lit closet shrine lined with pictures, chewed up gum, and cut out hearts. Creepy? Very. But as kids we don’t always understand why we feel a certain way and a certain someone.
As adults we do this. We act like we hate someone when in all reality we are afraid to show how we really feel or that the reaction we get is not what we wanted. Its frustrating. The features we make fun of are the reasons why we love this person, ie trouty mouth: but you actually love the fullness of that persons lips.